tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2791566280437960759.post7862323665725028850..comments2023-09-12T05:56:44.611-07:00Comments on Online Meditation Crew: Togetherness Meditation - Day 91Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2791566280437960759.post-30059592903753788522010-10-21T12:51:55.494-07:002010-10-21T12:51:55.494-07:00I agree with KamikaZEN and others here, I try to d...I agree with KamikaZEN and others here, I try to do so, but its easier said than done. I have certainly found that losing my temper doesn't help things, nor does worrying too much, or having an excessively pessimistic attitude. What I think I need to work on is catching myself before the "escalation" starts (a word mentioned in our retreat). It does seem that sitting meditation helps with that.<br /><br />Since I live alone, and rarely use any substances, it is hard for me to avoid myself through "partying" or focusing on others. I don't watch tv much - Twitter is probably my biggest distraction. I've learned to give myself time and space to make changes, but I think I'm still learning how to just be ok with whatever arises, and then proceed on from there.<br /><br />Deep breaths are a big help :) Also taking time for some light-hearted fun after dealing with really heavy things. Thanks.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2791566280437960759.post-40471436508532199642010-10-21T05:49:40.695-07:002010-10-21T05:49:40.695-07:00"Eager anticipation" is the approach I n..."Eager anticipation" is the approach I now feel in moments like those described. A feeling of looking forward to what comes next, even as I watch the hope/anticipation of what was or was to be is fading or failing. The whole 'one door closes, another opens' thing. Seems like I had several years where my living experience was filled with nothing but ops like that -- and now I feel as though the muscles required to watch it come and go are strong and flexible. Hallelujah.Tracyhttp://trailerparkkarma.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2791566280437960759.post-26151780460717957772010-10-20T18:50:30.828-07:002010-10-20T18:50:30.828-07:00I have gotten better at it as I age-When my kids w...I have gotten better at it as I age-When my kids were young they taught me the value of play and opportunity. The trick is realizing you will be a lot more comfortable if you can roll with things. Time teaches us that I think.<br /><br />I remember once our RV broke down on a trip. At first we were all disappointed but then we went looking for the interesting things in the little town where we were stranded. As it turned out, it became a stop with memories. My sons are 29 & 31 and talk about our trip & its experiences to this day.<br /><br />Three of us lived and travelled in our RV across USA for 2 years. We kept to off grid spots and we lived self reliantly mostly. It was an experience to remember (and learn) for us and our two sons aged 8 & 10. We home schooled-so our daily life WAS school. <br /><br />When you view life as part of one's daily lessons-it can give you opportunities for reflection & learning in small details. The 'trick' is to 'see' them.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2791566280437960759.post-14939580627858672502010-10-20T12:53:07.120-07:002010-10-20T12:53:07.120-07:00Well... I wish I could say I do, but my first gut-...Well... I wish I could say I do, but my first gut-reaction is getting pissed, worried, annoyed or all of the above.<br /><br />What I have tried to do is make a habit of taking a deep breath as soon as I get some mental space and saying to myself; 'right now, it's like this'.<br /><br />It's still to early to see any spectacular results, and I still find many situations where I simply forget about it and get carried away, but I'm hoping constant repetition will eventually help me build an habit of it.<br /><br />On the good side, I've found that as soon as I remind me of that phrase things tend to fall back into place, and I end up spending my energy flowing with the situation and finding my way thru it, instead of wasting it in anger and bad moods.<br /><br />_/|\_The KamikaZENhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18080888040159015049noreply@blogger.com